Are you going to live together before marriage?

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Marriage is and is undoubtedly the biggest decision you make in your entire life. Is that why you live together, to find out if you live with your husband before you promise to be with him "until death do you part?

Relationships and marriage include more science than you think it would; there are steps involved. First of all you have people wooing the lady before they enter into an exclusive relationship. After several years of courtship, he suggests, and she says yes. Finally, the marriage would come.

The model was how it worked for the majority of couples in the past. Now things are a little different. More specifically, there is an additional step before marriage for the modern couple: pre-marital cohabitation.

Still primarily a western trend

After you tune your very traditional and conservative parents to premarital cohabitation -a especially West practice is more difficult than convincing your partner. I come from a generation that grew up in a less westernized society than ours, our parents see premarital cohabitation as a forbidden intimacy just left for the marriage, as sex before marriage.

But for the younger, modern generation, premarital cohabitation no more than to test an avenue for couples who live together and see if they can joint responsibilities of their own homes, regardless of their families with themselves, with or support work face each other.

Because of this difference in perception, we find ourselves in a dilemma and conflicts that have never had to do our parents and the generations before them. We speak with two married ladies, Smitha and Jane * about their experiences together, you. Some of the most common reasons for the problems of living together and some answers

Purpose of cohabitation

Jane describes the purpose of living together, as always, to know more about the true nature of your partner before you get to the next level. That, and also because it is convenient and economical for her and her then-boyfriend, a place here to rent together as they both Indonesians who were in Singapore. They both have since split and now happy with another man, she had also before they married lived married.

As Jane, there are many couples consider premarital cohabitation as a "safety net" before the leap of faith into the marriage. Premarital cohabitation shows the realities of a relationship by lifting the veil courtship throws over his eyes. It's about your closet and keep your socks in the hamper and not on the floor.

Smitha Marquardt and her husband felt the differences in living habits as they moved into a rented apartment with him. It was stuffed in everything they did not need away, keep things clean and tidy used while her husband to leave dirty clothes on the floor, and used plates and cutlery on the table. "Having lived in a tiny apartment with my parents all my life, I was to be used with minimal ownership," says Smitha. "My husband on the other hand, grew up in a pretty big house with a front yard and backyard. Situated become worse, have my in-laws throw in anything, even if it is an item that is no longer used or was required was to believe."

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